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Your kid's behavior isn’t the problem, it’s the signal.

This Is Your Path to a Thriving Kid & Family

SIGNAL Parenting™ is the framework to decode that signal and raise a thriving, regulated child.

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i see you.

You don’t need another strategy, script, or sticker chart.

You need a way to understand your child’s behavior at its roots — and respond in ways that actually work for the way their brain is wired.

That’s exactly why I created SIGNAL Parenting™ — a science-backed framework for decoding behavior through connection, regulation, and nervous system awareness.
With SIGNAL, you’ll stop trying to fix your child, and start following the signal their behavior is giving you.

We’ll work together to dial down the big emotions and big behaviors, and maximize your child’s opportunities for success — while building a neuro-affirming ecosystem where your kid, and your family, can truly thrive.

Your first step? Take the free Animal Instincts Quiz to uncover your child’s dominant stress response — and begin your journey as a SIGNAL Parent.

Parenting a neurodivergent kid doesn't have to feel this hard.

Right now, you might feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and unsure how to help your child. The meltdowns, defiance, or constant movement have taken over — and nothing you’ve tried seems to make a lasting difference.

Here’s the truth:

The problem is not your child.
And you are not failing.

You just need a different approach — one rooted in neuroscience, compassion, and your child’s unique wiring.

When you follow the signal,

everything changes.

Hello!

I'm Penny.

I haven't always gotten this parenting thing right.

When my child was diagnosed with ADHD in 2008, I chased every strategy I could find. The real breakthrough came when I stopped trying to fix my child and started learning how to read and respond to the signals behind the behavior.

That shift became the SIGNAL Parenting™ Framework — a repeatable, practical way to parent with clarity, connection, and confidence.
I’ve used it to help thousands of families move from survival mode to success mode. Now it’s your turn.

Behavior

isn't

the problem.

That meltdown over socks that feel “wrong.”

The refusal to follow directions at school.

The shut-down silence when they’re overwhelmed.

That explosive reaction to a tiny change in routine.

These aren’t “bad behaviors.” They’re an automatic response from your child's nervous system — signals that your child needs help.

The SIGNAL Framework™ helps you:

Spot the State of your child's nervous system.

Interpret the Behavior with curiosity, not criticism.

Ground Yourself First so you can respond with intention.

Notice Needs and Emotions driving the behavior.

Adjust Expectations and Environment to meet your child where they are.

Lead with Connection so safety and trust pave the way for growth.

When you follow the signal, you stop fighting behavior and start creating the safety and support your child needs to thrive.

Once you know what’s happening inside, you can finally respond in ways that work.

Regulation is the key to improved behavior, and a thriving kid and family.

Step 1

Let's get really clear on what's driving your kid's behavior.

Before you can follow the signal, you need to know your child’s baseline stress response. That’s where the FREE Animal Instincts Quiz comes in.

In minutes, you’ll discover if your child’s go-to stress response is fight, flight, or freeze (or if they’re in their regulated state). You’ll get tailored insights and quick-start strategies to support their nervous system right now.

This is your first step to becoming a SIGNAL Parent.

Ways we can work together.

Survival to Success Accelerator™

Learn SIGNAL Parenting™ step-by-step so you can respond with confidence instead of reactivity.

— I NEED THIS!

Regulated Kids Project Membership

Regulated Kids Project offers monthly lessons, kid-friendly activities, and coaching to grow regulated, resilient kids and help you live out SIGNAL Parenting™ at home.

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Private Coaching with Penny

Personal guidance to help you apply the framework to your family’s unique challenges.

—YES PLEASE!

Not sure which option is right for you?

Take the short survey to determine which option is the best fit for you right now.

Parenting a neurodivergent child is a journey. But you don’t have to walk it alone.

I've helped thousands of neurodiverse families like yours. Now it's your turn.

Sarah

"You've changed our lives!"

When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, I felt confused, lost, angry, and sad. Then the guilt began and the questions were merciless. I would still be lost and confused without the extensive knowledge and supportI’ve received from your course. I kid you not, my husband and I would be lost without you.

Donita

"We've had a complete transformation!"

I felt like I was drowning as a mother to my 8-year-old daughter with ADHD. Our entire household was miserable. I took Penny’s course and read some of her books and put some new knowledge and skills into practice. My household has had a complete transformation. No more yelling and screaming. No more crazy punishments that didn’t work. My daughter and I have an excellent relationship now.

Maria B.

"You're one of the few who truly understand autism/ADHD and how best to support our kids."

You are one of the few people out there who truly understand autism/ADHD and how best to support our young people. Your observations are always spot on and create an incredibly helpful and reassuring resource for parents like me. I so much value your work and generosity in sharing your wonderful wisdom!

Heidi

"We went from many meltdowns a day to an occasional meltdown every few months."

The Survival to Success Accelerator has really helped me understand what is going on for my daughter. I no longer see my daughter as an aggressor, but a person that needs support. The course has helped us to go from several meltdowns every day to the occasional meltdown every few months, but even those are not as intense. I feel so much more in tune with my daughter's needs.

Robin

"We're growing snowball of small successes built on small successes."

My child's challenges related to ADHD and ASD have the power to completely derail our family's daily dynamics, but as I've learned more about these challenges in the Survival to Success Accelerator and have taken the time to get really curious about what my child needs to feel safe and regulated, two pretty amazing things happened: I stopped putting my child in situations he "should" be able to navigate (in spite of evidence that he can't, yet), and safety and trust have grown from fewer disastrous "'should' but can't" situations. It's given my son the space to regulate, learn, and experience a growing snowball of small successes built on small successes.

Charlie

"Our home is a much nicer place to be for us all."

I just wanted to say a big thank you for your Survival to Success Accelerator programme. We still have some difficult days, but our home is a much nicer place to be for us all. I really enjoyed the course — I keep rewatching bits and building on our progress. It helped me understand my lovely daughters and be a calmer,more connected parent. We are so much in a better space so a huge thank you from our whole family!

"Wow! 🤩 Instant results and lowered intensity."

Thanks so much for this wonderful Program. It's very insightful, especially validating my kid's feelings and asking how I can help them.

Constance

"I went from angry and frustrated to a mom with a plan, and peace and hope."

Penny provides concrete steps about how to move forward with each scenario I present. She is realistic that her methods will take time and a lot of repetition, but will work in the end. This has provided me with a lot of peace of heart. I feel we are on the right track now. My son is happier and more calm.

Yes! It really works!

You deserve to feel this relief, too.

You’ve tried everything. Now try something that actually works.

Transformation doesn’t happen overnight — but with the right approach, it does happen.

With SIGNAL Parenting™, you’ll:

See your kid

Understand what’s really driving your child’s behavior.

Parent with Purpose

Respond in ways that build regulation, resilience, and trust.

Watch your child grow & thrive

Create a home where your child can learn, grow, and thrive, without daily battles.

I’ll be with you every step of the way.

Learn to navigate the

beautifully complex

human experience.

Get weekly insights and actionable strategies on parenting neurodivergent kids — those with ADHD, autism, anxiety, learning disabilities… We’re decoding behavior while honoring neurodiversity, and learning to parent the individual child you have.

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Strategies to Help Your Anxious Child, with Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.

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Honoring Our Kids’ Individuality, with Kayla Taylor

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Calming Techniques for Kids (and Parents), with Penny

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Foundational Principles of Behavior, with The Behavior Revolution

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Free resources created just for you.

Animal Instincts Quiz

Decode your child’s behavior in minutes and start following the signal.

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3 High-Impact Actions to Transform behavior now

Mini-course to put SIGNAL Parenting™ into action immediately.

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Meltdowns Cheat Sheet

Respond in ways that truly help.

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Follow the Signal. Change the Story.

Your child’s behavior isn’t the problem — it’s the signal. SIGNAL Parenting™ will help you decode it, respond with confidence, and raise a thriving, regulated child.

Ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and start seeing progress?

Parenting a neurodivergent kid doesn't have to feel this hard.

Hello!

I'm Penny.

That meltdown over socks that feel “wrong.”

The refusal to follow directions at school.

The shut-down silence when they’re overwhelmed.

That explosive reaction to a tiny change in routine.

The SIGNAL Framework™ helps you:

Spot the State of your child's nervous system.

Interpret the Behavior with curiosity, not criticism.

Ground Yourself First so you can respond with intention.

Notice Needs and Emotions driving the behavior.

Adjust Expectations and Environment to meet your child where they are.

Lead with Connection so safety and trust pave the way for growth.

Ways we can work together.

Survival to Success Accelerator™

Regulated Kids Project Membership

Private Coaching with Penny

Not sure which option is right for you?

Parenting a neurodivergent child is a journey. But you don’t have to walk it alone.

You’ve tried everything. Now try something that actually works.

See your kid

Parent with Purpose

Watch your child grow & thrive

beautifully complex

human experience.

082

Strategies to Help Your Anxious Child, with Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.

205

Honoring Our Kids’ Individuality, with Kayla Taylor

094

Calming Techniques for Kids (and Parents), with Penny

209

Foundational Principles of Behavior, with The Behavior Revolution

Free resources created just for you.

Animal Instincts Quiz

3 High-Impact Actions to Transform behavior now

Meltdowns Cheat Sheet

FREE BEAUTIFULLY COMPLEX COMMUNITY

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